Mother Backed for 'Excluding' Kids from Son's Birthday Party

2022-08-27 01:08:08 By : Mr. kevin xu

Commenters backed a mother who was criticized by other parents for throwing her 8-year-old son a birthday party and not inviting his entire class.

The anonymous parent, known as u/randomness57317, posted about the situation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received nearly 14,000 upvotes and 2,600 comments. The post can be found here.

While birthday parties can be the highlight of a child's entire year, they often come with added stress for the adults who are responsible.

On top of planning and paying for the actual party, the parents are often responsible for finalizing the guest list and ensuring each kid receives their invitation.

According to Parenting.com, the common rule for guests is the age plus one—so if the child is turning 5, they can have six guests. But many parents often find themselves struggling with whether to invite a few guests or the entire class to avoid unwanted problems.

In the post titled "AITA for not inviting my kid's whole class to his birthday party?" the 28-year-old woman said that in April she threw her 8-year-old son a birthday party and is still receiving complaints.

She explained that they are not in the best place financially due to consumer debt, so she knew she had to throw her son a smaller party.

"So when it was time to throw him a party, I only invited 5 of his classmates, the ones he considered his friends," the post read. "For the others I sent 2 dozen cupcakes and juice boxes to class."

The mother said the invites were delivered to the children's homes and not in front of the other students.

"Like I said, money was tight so I got creative," the post read.

The mother said she made nine small cakes, sugar cookies, and had a "make your own" pizza station for lunch.

After making their pizzas, all the kids got in their bathing suits to play with water guns before they each decorated their own cake and cookies.

"Well the next Monday, the kids would not stop raving about how fun the party was, how it was the best birthday party ever," the post read. "The other kids were not happy to not be invited."

On Tuesday, a couple of moms confronted the woman about not including their children to which she apologized and said it was a small party for her son's close friends.

But, the woman said the other mothers continued to complain about excluding the kids.

"I didn't take it seriously then, but now it is a new school year, almost 6 months later, and I am still getting the occasional comment thrown at me," the post read. "So AITA?"

More than 2,600 users commented on the post, many backing the woman for not inviting her son's entire class to the birthday party.

"NTA. You invited FIVE children," one user commented. "I am honestly boggled at any parents that think it's okay to confront you about the fact their child was not invited. That is absurd honestly."

"I wouldn't invite the whole class either," another commented. "They loved it because it was different. And if nobody's told you of late, you're an awesome mum xx."

"Teacher opinion here—as long as the invites were given outside of school (which you stated they were) then you're fine," another commented. "It's one thing to give specific students invitations in front of everyone but you can't control what kids are going to talk about."

"I have never ever heard of a birthday party involving the whole class," another user wrote. "Those complaining are just jealous and think their kid is entitled to all the birthday parties. NTA."

Newsweek reached out to u/randomness57317 for comment.

In other viral Reddit posts, a parent was called "entitled" for demanding a free vacation from their sibling and another was cheered for punishing their "disrespectful teen" after she teased a teacher.

In one post, a teen's parents were slammed for forcing him to partake in five different sports.

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